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Leadership & Self Confidence, September 2010





































Future Features


October 2010
Communication, Relationships
November 2010
Burning Desire vs Negative Emotions

December 2010
Reflection
Setting The scene
Moving forward

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Inspirational Quotation

“You must know that in any moment a decision you make can change the course of your life forever: the very next person behind you in line, or seated next to you in an airplane, the very next phone call you make or receive, the very next movie you see or book you read or page you turn, could be the one single thing that causes the floodgates to open, and all of the things that you’ve been waiting for, to fall into place.”
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Positive Daily Action

Getting on track to take bold action is the only way forward in your journey to success.

Impact your life and decide to take consistent action which is critical to move forward one step at a time.

There are of course many dynamics that come into play including putting the horse in front of the cart, without doing that you are creating a recipe for disaster, so figure out what you want to achieve on a daily basis and then take the appropriate action to get that done.

You’ll be pleased with the outcome.

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Editors Letter

Dear Subscribers

Gentle rain has been showering the landscape of England yet many tourists have with confidence visited our fair isle, that says a lot. Sadly though the monsoon rains have devastated Pakistan, our heartfelt prays and thoughts go out to those many millions affected and all of us at the IIC would like to encourage everyone who can to donate what they can to the various official funds set up within your local community.

August and September are generally quiet months for me as I take those weeks to relax and enjoy the fruit of my own labour, therefore as I am away this months’ newsletter will be shorter than usual.

Driven to succeed is a common thread that runs through society with entrepreneurism taking a firm hold in the world. Going for it as some say is made up of incremental steps that build and take a stand for themselves as the fruits of one’s endeavours in carrying out a business. Both self confidence and leadership is required to make success happen and to get paid. Read the articles within this months’ newsletter to add a few nuggets of confidence and leadership to your coaching business.

Our guest this month is Edna Murdoch an Executive Coach and Director of the Coaching Supervision Academy her article on Supervision is in the ‘A Day In The Life of...’ section below, read and enjoy.

Remember to visit the IIC web site, the IIC Social Media networks and our very own You Tube Channel regularly to keep yourself updated on what is happening and the learning programmes we have on offer. Share the IIC with your friends and colleagues, you‘ll be glad you did.

By the way, I’m collating articles for 2011, if you liked to contribute, share your knowledge and raise your coaching profile then please write to me directly at the IIC with your ideas.
                                                     
Yours in Coaching,
                                                      PaTrisha-Anne Todd, LCSi, AFC
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Coaching in any niche i.e. life coaching, business coaching, soul coaching, with or without NLP (neuro linguistic programming) requires a first class foundational training in order to build the confidence levels of the coach. Self confidence is a skill set that can be harnessed, developed and used to assist coaching clients to reach and grow their inner potential creating unstoppable action and leadership qualities. Self confidence is a prerequisite to success. Self confidence leads to automatic leadership.

Living a life free from fear, anxiety and worry takes away any feelings of insecurity, self criticism, concern that others may not like you and putting other people’s needs ahead of your own is possible. Learning to cope with your emotions and get a firm productive grip on them so you can handle them better happens when you stop over thinking and start taken action to change your thinking process in a positive stream.

Working with clients as part of your coaching remit is to convey a sense of confidence and empowerment that goals and lifestyle can be changed. Coaching tools assist us to do this.

The Soul of Self Confidence and Leadership

I strongly believe that happiness, joy and contentment come from a place of inner understanding and strength. The soul is a powerful store house for knowledge on how to raise your self esteem, eliminate negative thoughts, strengthen and feed your motivation, enlightenment and show direction.

Dispel Negative Thinking

Polar opposites are positive and negative thinking. The negative self talk that goes on about ourselves can often lead to an incorrect projected illusion about ourselves and confidence and personal leadership are overtaken by time wasting thoughts and actions, or in many cases non-action.

Breaking the cycle of a negative reality requires determined effort to put into place new healthy positive based thoughts and actions. In essence look for your good, look to your dreams, acknowledge your strengths and step by step move in the direction of raising your levels of self confidence and personal leadership. Actually step up and challenge your coach (you do have a coach, don’t you?), to work with you to find, feed and grow your self confidence and personal leadership qualities.

PaTrisha-Anne Todd, Email PaTrisha-Anne Todd
© 2010 PaTrisha-Anne Todd; All Rights Reserved

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Top Tip - Go Get It Done

Getting it done can be simple and quick also fun to do.

To get your coaching message out to the world involves having a realistic plan. I find using 3x5 index cards to plot my way through my thoughts and ideas is quick and a great tool for organisation, reflection and review.

I use one card for one idea/thought. I simply write down my thoughts including the date onto the card and file it way in an index card box under main headings.

When I’m ready to take an action step to get it done I organise my cards into relevant main and sub headings.

Once all the information is sorted I then transfer it to a spread sheet on my computer.

Using the system above I can get it done and have fun doing it.
Inspiration from PaTrisha-Anne

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Leadership

What is good leadership? What qualities does a good leader possess? In his book ‘Tribes – We Need You To Lead Us’ Seth Godin states “leadership is about creating change that you believe in”.

We all know individuals who inspire us to take action. What is it about that person that makes us believe in what they represent to such an extent that we follow their lead? Whoever it is that inspires you, is encouraging you to take actions that you believe in taking, and you have faith in the outcome that those changes will bring. The messages given by that person resonate with your beliefs and attitudes and encourage you to follow their example. As a result you develop and enjoy new experiences and personal growth.

Leaders don’t always know the outcome their actions will create, but they start from their own passion to create change and make improvements. They possess the drive and determination to persevere through every challenge and set back. Great leaders such as Martin Luther King (1929-1968), Mohandas Ghandi (1869-1948) or Mother Theresa (1910-1997), certainly didn’t know how their actions would affect so many when they started. They simply had a passion to change the current situation and ceaselessly took action to create that momentum for change.

We know as coaches that each of us has the power to be the leader in our own lives. We coach individuals and groups to take responsibility for their progress and outcomes, and build action plans which are congruent with their values. We encourage them to lead by example by taking control, overcoming challenges and consistently work on steps to achieve their goals. One of the fundamental purposes of employing a coach is so that you are accountable for consistent action, whether it be large or small steps. Continual proactive choices to move towards an identified goal is the way to achieve success.

This is not always as easy as it sounds. Not everyone is willing to commit to change. Making changes can be very uncomfortable, it alters the status quo and can create fear and uncertainty of whether they will bring the results desired. This is when the support of a coach can also be extremely beneficial. Leaders break boundaries, stretch current thinking, lead by example – all qualities possessed in each of us and skills we can use in our own personal lives.

Seth Godin also states “Leadership is a choice. It’s the choice to not do nothing.” We all have the choice to act, to improve our lives, to make positive changes and inspire others to do the same. It therefore follows that we all the the potential to be leaders. None of us can foresee the outcome our actions will bring, but unless we take the first step we will never know what positive changes we can create, or how they will inspire others.

Reference:
Godin Seth 2008 Tribes – We Need You To Lead Us

Researched and written by Helen Jones, Assoc.
©2010 Helen Jones; All Rights Reserved
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Self-Confidence

"You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.. . . You must do the thing you think you cannot do." Eleanor Roosevelt, Former US First Lady (1884-1962)

One of the quickest ways to improve your self-confidence is to do that thing which you dread most. Even by taking baby steps to undertake something which fills you with horror is enormous progress. The first step is always the hardest but as soon as you have taken that one your confidence will automatically grow and momentum will encourage you to continue. If you have a difficult task to do, do it first thing. Get it over with and you will feel much freer. The longer you leave something that makes you feel uncomfortable to more of a mental burden it will become.

Each of us knows areas of our lives where our performance could be improved but we shirk away from because the actions that are required make us feel uncomfortable or unsure. Fear is perhaps the greatest force which stops us reaching our full potential but we can chip away at it so that the power it has over us is consistently reduced.

Interestingly an acronym of FEAR is False Expectations Assuming Reality. This means that fear is based on the worry of actually experiencing the worst outcomes we imagine to happen from the efforts we put in to achieving the goal. How many times in the past has your worst fears surrounding an experience actually occurred? If the outcome was not quite what you had hoped for, was it really as bad as you had previously imagined? Perhaps you could ask yourself, what exactly are you afraid of? Voicing the exact fear, again reduces the power it has and when you hear it out loud you will often realise that is not so justified.

If improving your self-confidence is one of your desires, set it as a conscious goal, just like any other goal you may set yourself. Here are some tips which can help:
  1. Identify particular actions which you know will contribute to increasing greater confidence. Break down the actions into realistic steps which you will achieve. If a step feels too big, break it down into smaller ones.
  2. Set concrete deadlines to achieve each step by. This is extremely important as building self-confidence involves steps which will be very uncomfortable and the urge to avoid them or make excuses may be greater than when working on other goals.
  3. Take time to think about exactly what aspect of each action causes anxiety or fear. Acknowledge those feelings, understand that they are coming from a positive place of self-preservation and embrace your decision to take the necessary step anyway.
  4. Celebrate EVERY step. Developing greater self-confidence involves a great deal of courage and it is important that you recognise that fact. You have broken a barrier which had previously held a great power over you and that is a massive achievement. Enjoy the feeling that overcoming that hurdle brings.
  5. Now that you have taken that step, consider the outcome. Was your worst fear realised? Perhaps the outcome was not exactly how you would have wished but you have certainly learnt a great deal which you can use to improve your performance next time, and knowing you have completed that action once gives you more confidence to undertake it again in the future.
  6. The biggest obstacle to improving your self-confidence is you. An integral part of continual self-development is stretching yourself and embracing new challenges. Once you get used to overcoming smaller challenges you will know the best methods to support you in taking on larger ones, and when you have learned this there is absolutely no reason why you cannot achieve anything you want to.
Written by Helen Jones, Assoc, Email Helen Jones
©2010 Helen Jones; All Rights Reserved
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IIC Member Benefit Spotlight: ICR

The International Coaching Register is for any individual who trades as a Coach, who help individuals and/or organisations for example, establish a work life balance, manage stress levels and build communication skills amongst many other specialist areas.

Everyone who has qualified as a Coach with a recognised Coach training company should now take the opportunity to register. This will dramatically cut down on any misrepresentation that goes on within the industry. Many people have websites and call themselves a Coach but have no actual qualifications. The register will stop these people and raise the profile of genuine Coaching and how it can transform people’s lives.

President of the IIC Gerard O’Donovan said “the register has been administered by the IIC for the benefit of the world of Coaching and Coaching clients. It is also a great way for Coaches to get business as members of the public can search for registered Coaches in their area. It brings Coaching transparency at last.”

As a Member of the IIC, Have you published your details on the International Coaching Register, at no charge?
To do so:

Login to the IIC Members Area, and then select the ICR Register Edits menu option on the left hand side of the screen.

Create your entry by selecting:
Insurance - enter your Professional Indemnity Insurance details here.

Training - enter the details of all the training courses you have completed here.

Workshops - enter the details of all the workshops you have attended here.

Accreditation - your IIC Accreditation details will automatically be included here. You also have the opportunity to enter the details of all the accreditations/credentials you have been awarded, as an independent verification of your Coach training and experience.

Business Details - select or enter all types of Coaching you include in your Coaching Business/Practice.

Organisation Membership Details - enter the details of all Business Organisations in which you hold a Membership -these could be other Coaching Bodies, Chamber of Commerce, or any type of organisation that is appropriate to your business.

Display - do not forget to DISPLAY your details.Selecting yes your details will be displayed on the International Coaching Register. For IIC Accredited Coaches, your details will also be displayed on the IICs Coaching Referral programme.
We look forward to seeing you on the International Coaching Register.


PaTrisha-Anne Todd, Email PaTrisha-Anne Todd
© 2010 PaTrisha-Anne Todd; All Rights Reserved

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A Day in the Life…

‘Supervision is an opportunity to bring someone home to their own mind, to show them how good they can be’. Nancy Kline

One of the most important attributes of successful coaches is self-confidence showing up as genuinely confident in their craft, coach elegantly and really make an impact.

What Is Coaching Supervision?

Coaching supervision can bring to your practice a learning edge that develops presence, increases the range of interventions and builds confidence to coach in many different contexts. It can make a difference leaving coaches with a SUPER-VISION of their practice and the means to optimise their skills.

Supervision offers a collaborative learning partnership in which Reflection, Insight and Support are key components. Here are some areas which supervision illuminates:

Establishing contracts, including the often-ignored psychological contract.

Exploring critical moments in Coaching

Ensuring that ethics and standards are sustained

Exploring blind spots – we all have them!

Building the Internal Supervisor

Developing Systemic thinking

Developing relational awareness.

Offering in-depth support when working with ‘difficult clients’.

Example: A fairly typical ‘critical moment’ in coaching can occur when a coach processes a 360-feedback report with a coachee, which has hard-hitting comments. Sometimes, the coachee puts up a very strong defence against the comments. Supervision can support the coach so that they are not caught in parallel process becoming defensive in their turn and can enable the coach to be curious about the coachee’s behaviour, rather than disabled by it. Or the coachee may become emotional and thus affect the coach’s thinking. Here, supervision provides a safe, reflective space where the coach can explore their responses to strong emotion so that they return to that coachee better resourced and more grounded.

What is the Internal Supervisor?

Building the Internal Supervisor in supervision sessions means that coaches will have immediate access to the cognitive, somatic and intuitive data that naturally occurs inside the coach during coaching conversations. This valuable information is often ignored. This range of information becomes available to the coach’s analytical/processing mind, which in turn decides interventions and strategies. With a well-developed Internal Supervisor, comes a major increase in coaches’ confidence, coaching presence and powerful, impactful coaching.

Coaching Supervision greatly accelerates the development of the Internal Supervisor by working directly with the coach’s internal system: intuition, body responses, hunches, thinking and awareness of the energetic exchange between client and coach. This ‘energetic exchange’ can also be understood as transference/countertransference and is explored as part of the dance between coach and coachee. By paying attention to these various types of information, the coach’s blind spots are removed, and there is much greater knowledge about the coaching relationship and of the coaching process - where the main insights and shifts often occur. Coaches learn how to use these insights to accelerate change.

Developing the ability to think systemically is an important part of the supervisory process. The coach learns more about the interplay between self and the whole system – eg all stakeholders. The result is the creation of effective, robust working alliances and an increase in the ability to keeping professional boundaries.

The ‘Support’ of supervision is enormously valuable

Coaches in supervision often refer to the relief of having time and space to reflect with a trained supervisor who will microscopically explore practice with them and contribute to their understanding. This support enables the coach to contain and resolve some of the more challenging parts of their work e.g. their frustrations with coachees, their concern that they are not doing enough, the difficulty of keeping to a coaching contract when the coaching ‘flow’ is going off piste, the undue influence of key stakeholders which might reduce coach effectiveness, unexpected emotional material either within the coach or in the coachee and ‘ruptures’ in the coaching relationship.

Coaching supervision enables coaches to be present and open, creative and empowered in a field that may contain ambiguity, complexity and that is often multi-layered. This level of reflection goes a long way to increasing coaches’ range and confidence.

Edna Murdoch is an Executive Coach and Director of the Coaching Supervision Academy. She runs a 9-month, Coach Supervision training programme in London, offers supervision to Executive and Internal coaches, individually and in groups. Her forthcoming presentation at the EMCC conference in Dublin is entitled: “Who You Are is How You Coach.”

Full information may be found at: www.coachingsupervisionacademy.com




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Recommended Reading

Links to books available through amazon.com that were published by our members, as well as any other books which we find particularly helpful for coaching ideas and insights will be placed here. Cheers to reading!

PaTrisha-Anne Todd, Email PaTrisha-Anne Todd
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